My Juneteenth celebration yesterday. Beauty, bellies, booties, & black women. My liberation came in the form of radical honesty. I sat in that pool yesterday and shed real tears and let it wash over me.
Often times as women and/or mothers, we try to keep it all together. We’ve been conditioned to. The concept of being a “strong black woman” can be very destructive and isolating. Not to mention, it takes mental energy and resources that can be better spent. I’m pledging to let it all go, practice compassion, and ask for the help that I need.
Open. Release. Shed. Love. Grow. Thankful for my tribe.
Celebrating self love. If you’re reading this, know that you are worthy and you are loved. You are beautiful and joy is your birthright.
Atlanta. Wednesday, June 3, 2020.
Protesting police abuse and the murder of George Floyd. I’ve been to a lot of protests in the past, but this was by far the most racially inclusive and it made an impact. Racism isn’t just some problem to be solved by those that are being oppressed, it’s everyone’s problem. I’m happy that people are finally realizing that and taking accountability.
On another note, I love my people. Black people. Always have. Always will. We’ll get through this too. ❤️
I’m back with another outfit of the day, quarantine edition. My family is doing a Spirit Week at the crib, so this was “Backwards Day.” My kids loved the whole idea of wearing their clothes backwards and they did so the entire day, lol. I wore my shirt backwards and ended up really liking the look. Might have to keep that in mind for future looks.
Interesting thing is, my entire outfit is from Walmart. This whole look probably cost me $20. I say that to say, you don’t have to have a lot of money to look good or stylish. You just have to have an vision for an outfit. And an eye for quality fabrics, especially when you’re at second hand stores (which are my favorites). I was completely comfortable in this outfit while in classes remotely and while being an active mom. Walmart had more pants in this style with different designs. They cost an entire $7. I know physical distancing is in place, but if you find yourself at Walmart, peruse the clothing section for these pants. SO cute & comfortable.
And also, Walmart been the lick for statement tee’s. If you don’t know, now you know. Look in the men’s section.
Sometimes Easter goes by and I don’t really trip off it. It feels more like a general holiday. It embodies a certain time of the year where everything is coming alive and it’s warming up, so that’s cool. You get to dress up and look cute plus the food that day is usually hella delicious. But Easter felt much more personal this year. The story of Jesus: his life, his death, the resurrection. The timing is impeccable. I feel like as a collective, we’re all going through some form of death and rebirth right now. Our reality has never looked like it does right now and people are adjusting. It was the death of life as we had known it and now it’s something new. It’s interesting.
So to celebrate, I got Easter baskets for my kids, we did an Easter egg hunt inside the house, and I got my kiddos all dressed up for virtual church. I found a company called Bailey’s Blossoms that sells “mommy and me” clothes. Since my daughter is still so young, I thought it would be cute if we wore matching black and white printed dresses. Langston’s outfit is a mix of Target, Carter’s, and Osh Kosh. Since I love photography, I took pictures of us outside the house and they turned out really good. I’ve shared some of them below.
Hey everyone! How are things? …it’s been a lot, right? I’ve been mostly focused on being a mom and a graduate student right now. And trust me, that is plenty. Overflow. When I first found out that my graduate program was transitioning to online learning, I really thought I was gonna show up to classes (on Zoom) in my “house clothes.” Nah playa. The devil is a lie. See I like to dress. I like to style clothes. AKA my closet is my playground.
So as long as I’m home based, I’m gonna get up and get dressed for the day and so will my kids. We gon be comfy but cute. Pajamas all day was fun for a little while but nah. We off that.
Then we can feel good and look good when we go on walks around the neighborhood. How are you and your family settling in at home?
Earlier this month, I got a facial and massage at IWI Fresh. I have had a few different spa experiences in Atlanta, but this is the first time that I had been to a natural spa to this degree. They advertise themselves as farm to skin, meaning that they grow the products and create the products that they use. I’m talking about oils, face sprays, scrubs….all smelled super delicious as well. My services were really great. The music throughout the place was a whole vibe, it’s decorated cute, and it was filled with black people. Plus there is a facial/ massage combo on Groupon. Need I say more?
I know that most people are at home right now. Not only is social distancing in full effect but you damn sure aren’t about to get a massage. BUT when the time does come, check out IWI Fresh. I was really happy with my time there.
I hope yal are doing well. Stay safe & protect your energy.
My Spring Break was earlier this month before social distancing was our reality. I wanted to do something special with my babies so we took a road trip to Chatanooga, Tennessee. And I did it solo dolo. That’s right folks. Just me and the two toddlers, and the trip went really well. I was proud of us.
We went to the Creative Discovery Museum on Saturday and then to the Missionary Ridge Local for a 3-mile round trip train ride on Sunday morning. I don’t know what it is about trains, but kids dig ’em. It was a cool outing for us. And it was my first real train ride too.
I’m here for all of the fun, love, and cool shit that’s been showing up on social media. (The memes have been taking me out 😂 . I just find it interesting that we’re having virtual parties now. I was at DJ D-Nice’s Homeschool party yesterday with apparently 100k other people feeling like a whole cool kid. 💁🏽 Wow. The times.
Even though we’re physically distant, people have really been getting creative with new resources and access online like never before. If you find something cool to do online, send it my way. Gimme dat.
Im taking this time of isolation to reevaluate things in my life, to prioritize things that nurture me, to practice better self care, and to continue to connect with self and God.
Find your fucking peace. I’m trying my best but to be honest, mugs are trying me. It be the ones. And also, send me all the funny tings and resources. Thanks. | 😘
I’ll be sharing a list soon of the resources that I have found to be helpful in some way.
This what I feel like sometimes during meditation. Like, where the fuck am I? And also, yes.
I’ve been holding down a consistent meditation practice lately and I just think it’s so necessary and cool. For me, meditation is a form of self-love. When I’m done, my body feels more relaxed and my mind is way more quiet. I feel super present.
So right now my intention is to meditate 15 minutes in the morning and 15 minutes in the evening. I don’t always reach that goal but I’m building consistency still. If you want to start meditating and that seems like too long for you, 5 minutes is also great. Any minutes is great if you ask me. I think the important part is about being intentional about the actual practice of meditation: focusing on your breath, letting go of your thoughts, and then noticing when you inevitably let your mind wander and bringing your awareness back to your breath. It’s a lovely little dance.
For my science folks, research shows the benefits of meditation include lowering blood pressure, anxiety, and depression and also helping people cope with chronic pain. Not to mention you can see colors with your eyes closed. So there’s that too. Need I say more?
What is your meditation practice? Are you the silent meditation type, or do you prefer a little music or a guided meditation? And if you’ve never tried meditation before, I’m just wondering why not. 🙂
Greetings and Happy New Year. It also happens to be Black History Month so theres that as well. Plenty to be grateful for. 2020 has been pretty illuminating already. I cleaned up my eating and I’ve been way more consistent with my spiritual practice. Meditation makes a difference, man.
My friend had a gender reveal/ birthday party at Ra Sushi. My first time there and I definitely have to go back for a full dinner. My look reflected a classy lady of the night in a Blaxploitation film. I think it’s the coat, lol. Funny enough, I found this coat while shopping at Sam’s. Some of the gems be where you least expect it.