My Juneteenth celebration yesterday. Beauty, bellies, booties, & black women. My liberation came in the form of radical honesty. I sat in that pool yesterday and shed real tears and let it wash over me.
Often times as women and/or mothers, we try to keep it all together. We’ve been conditioned to. The concept of being a “strong black woman” can be very destructive and isolating. Not to mention, it takes mental energy and resources that can be better spent. I’m pledging to let it all go, practice compassion, and ask for the help that I need.
Open. Release. Shed. Love. Grow. Thankful for my tribe.
Celebrating self love. If you’re reading this, know that you are worthy and you are loved. You are beautiful and joy is your birthright.
Sometimes Easter goes by and I don’t really trip off it. It feels more like a general holiday. It embodies a certain time of the year where everything is coming alive and it’s warming up, so that’s cool. You get to dress up and look cute plus the food that day is usually hella delicious. But Easter felt much more personal this year. The story of Jesus: his life, his death, the resurrection. The timing is impeccable. I feel like as a collective, we’re all going through some form of death and rebirth right now. Our reality has never looked like it does right now and people are adjusting. It was the death of life as we had known it and now it’s something new. It’s interesting.
So to celebrate, I got Easter baskets for my kids, we did an Easter egg hunt inside the house, and I got my kiddos all dressed up for virtual church. I found a company called Bailey’s Blossoms that sells “mommy and me” clothes. Since my daughter is still so young, I thought it would be cute if we wore matching black and white printed dresses. Langston’s outfit is a mix of Target, Carter’s, and Osh Kosh. Since I love photography, I took pictures of us outside the house and they turned out really good. I’ve shared some of them below.
Earlier this month, I got a facial and massage at IWI Fresh. I have had a few different spa experiences in Atlanta, but this is the first time that I had been to a natural spa to this degree. They advertise themselves as farm to skin, meaning that they grow the products and create the products that they use. I’m talking about oils, face sprays, scrubs….all smelled super delicious as well. My services were really great. The music throughout the place was a whole vibe, it’s decorated cute, and it was filled with black people. Plus there is a facial/ massage combo on Groupon. Need I say more?
I know that most people are at home right now. Not only is social distancing in full effect but you damn sure aren’t about to get a massage. BUT when the time does come, check out IWI Fresh. I was really happy with my time there.
I hope yal are doing well. Stay safe & protect your energy.
My Spring Break was earlier this month before social distancing was our reality. I wanted to do something special with my babies so we took a road trip to Chatanooga, Tennessee. And I did it solo dolo. That’s right folks. Just me and the two toddlers, and the trip went really well. I was proud of us.
We went to the Creative Discovery Museum on Saturday and then to the Missionary Ridge Local for a 3-mile round trip train ride on Sunday morning. I don’t know what it is about trains, but kids dig ’em. It was a cool outing for us. And it was my first real train ride too.
I’m a child of the 90’s. Whenever I see colorful things, my brain jumps to the Popsicle commercial where the kid says “The colors Duke, the colors” to his colorblind dog. That’s the end of my story.
Enjoy these magical ass photos of me and my kids embodying joy. We discovered a trampoline park South of Atlanta and it has hella activities plus great lighting in the evening. Here we are in the ball pit. Had to jump in because the kids immediately started sinking and I wasn’t having that. It was fun.
This what I feel like sometimes during meditation. Like, where the fuck am I? And also, yes.
I’ve been holding down a consistent meditation practice lately and I just think it’s so necessary and cool. For me, meditation is a form of self-love. When I’m done, my body feels more relaxed and my mind is way more quiet. I feel super present.
So right now my intention is to meditate 15 minutes in the morning and 15 minutes in the evening. I don’t always reach that goal but I’m building consistency still. If you want to start meditating and that seems like too long for you, 5 minutes is also great. Any minutes is great if you ask me. I think the important part is about being intentional about the actual practice of meditation: focusing on your breath, letting go of your thoughts, and then noticing when you inevitably let your mind wander and bringing your awareness back to your breath. It’s a lovely little dance.
For my science folks, research shows the benefits of meditation include lowering blood pressure, anxiety, and depression and also helping people cope with chronic pain. Not to mention you can see colors with your eyes closed. So there’s that too. Need I say more?
What is your meditation practice? Are you the silent meditation type, or do you prefer a little music or a guided meditation? And if you’ve never tried meditation before, I’m just wondering why not. 🙂
Ronald Dahl’s Charlie and the Chocolate Factory was playing at the Fox Theatre. So the fam and I (minus little Josephine) went to see it. Yep, we took Langston on a mommy/daddy date, which never happens, and I’m happy we did.
Even before we went, I was excited for Langston to be introduced to the story and songs. I mean, Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory is a straight classic. He loved the Oompa Loompas and all the singing and dancing. He was asking me hella questions the entire time. But there were definitely parts that confused and/or scared him (i.e. ripping that one girl apart and those black squirrels). Keep in mind, Langston just turned 3. He really enjoyed it overall though and so did I.
“If you want to view paradise, simply look around and view it” – Willy Wonka
Yesterday I found out that I was accepted into Mercer’s Doctor of Psychology program! I had been wait listed all summer and a spot just opened up, less than 2 weeks before classes start, and I was first on the list.🙌🏽 I literally jumped up and down when I got the news.
And to think, I had been applying for counseling jobs all summer and could not get an interview. I was still hoping that things would work out and some miracle would get me into this program tho.
In spite of my disappointments, I meditated on the fact that whatever is for me is already mine and things work out as they should. And I got in. God stay having my back.
Here is the final round of pictures from my Savannah trip. Rocking black on black in the beautiful Forsyth Park.
I feel rejuvenated. Like something has changed on a cellular level. Like healing has occurred. I talked about my spiritual journey recently on my Facebook page and I was super surprised by the feedback that I got. It helped me to realize that there is the opportunity to create community and connection by being more open and vulnerable, especially about the things that many of us can relate to.
I’ll be including more talks of spiritual practices and metaphysics on this site in the future. I hope we can share and grow together in that.
I visited Tybee Island, an adorable little island close to Savannah, Georgia. My family and I spent a relaxing day at the beach and it felt like a hard reset. It felt soo good. We got to the beach late Sunday morning. It wasn’t crowded at all, the weather was great, and the ocean water was nice and warm. If you’re in the Atlanta area or in this general part of the country, I would recommend taking a weekend trip to Tybee Island. More from my day below:
I visited Savannah, Georgia for the first time last weekend and fell in love. The big Oak trees with Spanish Moss draping the branches are so beautiful. Savannah has the feel of an old soul. Such a charming place.
The great thing about living in the South is a quick road trip can get you to so many cool places whether it’s in Georgia, the Carolinas, Florida, or elsewhere. Driving to Savannah was a 3.5 hour car ride. Completely doable, even with 2 toddlers.
On our first day there, we went to The Public House for dinner, which was amazing. Then we waited in a line that went half way down the block for Leopold’s Ice Cream. Their serving size was on 200. And I, for one, was not mad. Plus the weather was perfection so we finished the day with a nice stroll around town. It was a great day.
I’m just getting to know Savannah, so any recommendations for next time are appreciated. I’ll definitely be back.